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My New Stressy Jessy Workbook!!

Are You a Stressy Jessy!?!

Help Yourself Through The Colourful World of Stress!

First Part of the Book - Sections i, ii and iii

The first section is a mini version of the book to help you in the NOW because you may be so overwhelmed with stress. This section will help you to: i. Create a sense of safety and turning off your fear / freeze states.  It will then help you to understand that; ii. There is strength and courage in being vulnerable enough to recognise that you are struggling with your stress bottle and all of your stressors that are shaking it a lot to the point where you cannot cope anymore. It will then enable you to learn simple and easy new skills and resources to: iii. keep practising and change your neural pathways to create that sense of safety and to bring down your stress levels for you NOW and then in the future to be able to help you to delve deeper into the rest of the workbook. 

Remember that only YOU can do this.  Others can assist you, however, only YOU can change things for YOU.

The Rest of the Book - Sections –1 to 10

You have now started to also gain back some safety for yourself.  You may even be feeling less anxious, and you may now have enough mental and physical capacity to perhaps be able to learn more about stress to help you to learn to not have to go through what you have just been through again.  To learn about what causes anxiety and stress and where you are with your own levels of stress now.  To learn about the good, the bad and ugly levels of stress together with the four stress responses (see section 1) and how your mind and body are connected both scientifically and spiritually, and to learn and become aware of how stressed you are and how you react to it.  To then be able to be curious enough to check out whether your current life is balanced enough? (see section 2) as well as finding out about your own Jenga Life Tower and the stressors within it and how to change them to lessen your stressors perhaps.

Next will be about learning that “Loving Yourself is Your Job” (see section 3).  To be able to learn how to take time to look after yourself first, yes YOU first.  Like the old cliché says “putting the oxygen mask on yourself first”, you can then move forward to be able to look after other people in the way that you want to without continuing to self-abandon yourself like you have been in the role of being a serve-aholic in some way or another perhaps.  You will start to notice that you are now taking more care of yourself both internally and externally.  You are strengthening your adult self to take responsibility for you because you are learning that you matter a lot, you matter just as much as everyone else.  You are starting to become aware that you are allowed to have your own needs and wants in all relationships and starting to become your own best friend and to become the adult self who takes responsibility for all those inner child parts / younger selves within your inner world.

Remember the only person who is truly here to take care of YOU is YOU. Therefore, ask yourself “What would I do today if I was taking care of my human?”

To be able within this section to look at how you can build up your own positivity, your own cheerleader, best friend and learning how gratitude can help to build up your self-esteem.

This will help you to go on and learn more about your body and what amazing things it actually does for you (visit Section 4), how to fuel your mind and body in a nourishing way (see section 5), and how to get enough sleep, rest, self-care and “me time” (see section 6) as these are really important factors that are essential to your survival and to be able to thrive.  These are things that are often not prioritised as much as they need to be and get forgotten more often than not because of the way society has made our lives busier, more productive, working long hours and convenience and everything is readily available without moving. 

As you may have noticed the first few sections of this book have all been about you.  This is so important to become aware of because there is only one of you, you are unique, and nobody is the same as you.  As Matthew Hussey says:

“Loving yourself today is your job. You were given a human: YOU”.

This book then gives you the opportunity to go deeper within yourself, to learn more about yourself internally (your own sense of self) and how YOU do YOU presently in your outer world.  To look at how you can change your compulsive and avoidant behaviours, your negative triggers and habits and challenge your negative thoughts etc.  To learn and look at your own core values, beliefs and rules you are following every day that you are just running automatically and how your feelings show you what needs you are trying to fulfil for yourself (see section 7). 

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought. 
The mind is everything. What we think we become." - The Buddha

To then also give yourself the opportunity to be curious to explore and learn new skills and resources to help you to relate to others externally (see section 8). To understanding and process your emotional attachments to others, and working through communication issues with others.  To perhaps learn how to detach with love when relationships are beyond any repair.  To learning how to create healthy boundaries with others and learning what to do when things feel out of control with others, and you therefore feel so stressed about it not knowing what to do next. Learning how to gain support around you from others and how to respond healthier to them if are feeling that you are not being heard.  Also learning how to manage your workload and stressors by practicing new therapeutic techniques and resources to help you with this. 

To then start learning “It Is Your Future. It Is Yours to Create” (see section 9) by completing therapeutic techniques and worksheets that focus on what you want for your future such as vision boards, goals etc.

To then learn about self-hypnosis and guided meditation and how they can both help you short term and long term (see section 10).

And Finally to reflect on how far you have gone on your healing journey around what keeps you so stressed. A reflection of where you are with your Stress Levels and to note what changes you have made to help yourself becomes more balanced in life with being able to manage your stressors, your stress responses, triggers etc and to how much more you have introduced healthier ways of coping with those stressors and stress responses and learned so much about yourself that you have added awareness and light to your inner world, acknowledged and validated what you have been through and now are helping yourself to feel more gratitude, kindness and compassion for who you have been to who you are now.  To continue to recognise the work you are doing for yourself to help you to move towards this balance in your life you now want and to bring down your stress levels to a level that you can appreciate good stress once again to motivate you even more.

So, let’s begin……. Let’s go on this colourful world of stress journey together…..